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Resiliency is a life long process. The skills and values we live and teach as adults can make a life long difference to the children and other adults in our lives.

Please find attached below information to assist you with self exploration and information to assist you as you raise your children/grandchildren and youth towards the most successful outcomes possilbe.

Three interesting pieces of information about resilient kids and adults:
~ resilient youth get higher grades in school
~ resilient youth have a 40% higher graudation rate from high school
~ 1/5 (19.8%) less reocurrence of chronic illnesses when they live a resilient life style

Some added thoughts for you:
~ Mindfulness is a key skill to start to develop
~ Mastery of self is a life long journey ~ Practise is well worth it!
~ Resiliency pays life long dividends for self and the kids!

Please click on the file folder to see the files in pdf format we discussed.

Valuable Learning/Teaching Resources for Kids and Adults
in CD - Audio and some DVD Video formats

Peter Alsop
P O BOX 960
TOPANGA CA 90290
USA
http://www.peteralsop.com/

Round River Productions
Mr. Harley Bill S.T.
301 Jacob Street
Seekonk MA 02771
USA
www.billharley.com

Resiliency for Life
see Imagine Yourself Energy Management Program for Kids
Toronto ON Canada
www.ResiliencyforLife.com


Suggested Reading List

Full Catastrophe Living
~ Living Life Despite What goes on with us and around us
Jon Katat-Zinn

The Resilience Factor
Essential skills for overcoming life’s inevitable obstacles
Karen Reivich
Andrew Shatté

How to Get Control of your Time and Your Life
~ Stress and Time Issues
Alan Lakein

Life Scripts
What to say to get what you want in life’s toughtest situations
~ Help is saying what must be said
Stephen M. Pollan & Mark Levine

Mastery
The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment
George Leonard

Power Phrases
The Perfect Words to Say It Right
Meryl Runion

Minding the Body Mending the Mind
Joan Borysenko

Seven Habits of Highly Successful People
~ Seven Habits/Skills that make a major difference in life
Stephen Covey

The Prophet
~ Thoughts on life’s larger moments
Kahlil Gibran

Think Big
Unleashing your potential for Excellence
~ Reaching your personal potential from a man that has lived his message many times over
Ben Carson


Energy Management
Key Word Definitions

Challenge: Seeing the challenge in every situation along with the threat

Commitment: Persistence is a hallmark of being resilient. We all need to find reasons to stay committed from time to time.

Control: Finding ways to think and feel in control despite what is going on around you.

Connectiveness: Actively seeking, gaining and keeping key trusting relationships.

Stress Signals: Signs our body, thinking or feelings send us that are our stress is increasing. i.e. tension headaches, back aches and stomaches.

Flight, Flight Response: Flight and Fight is what helps keep us safe when we sense danger. It does not always serve us well for the past few decades. Flight – to run away from danger or stay and fight when we sense danger. Two interesting states to find ourselves in but not always ones that our productive. i.e. Our response to a news item, or how we are treated by a rude stranger.

Flow Response: what happens when we get into a highly productive grove.
We find that we are in our highest level of productivity.

Mindfulness: Cultivating and assuming the stance in an impartial witness to your own experience.

Patience: A from of wisdom. Accepting that some things must unfold in their own time.

Begginer’s Mind: The richness of present-moment experience. Allowing ourselves to not let what we know prevent us from seeing things as they really are.

Trust: Developing a basic trust in yourself and your feelings is an integral part of meditation training and mindfulness

Ceaseless striving: Over doing things - confusing doing with accomplishment

Non-Striving: Learning how to let go of a doing mindset and shift into a being mindset.
Intentionality: Developing a strong commitment to working on yourself and enough self-discipline to persevere in the process are essential to start to gain mastery over the various skills of resiliency.

Engaged Commitment: Like an athlete who is training for a particular event does not only practises when they feel like it, but also when they don’t feel like it.

Acceptance: Seeing how things are in the present. Acceptance of things as they are. Coming to terms as they really are.

Letting go: Letting go of getting caught in circular thinking. Non attachment. Paying attention to our inner experience as

Reframing: Seeing the situation from a new perspecitive.

Dis-idenfication: Do you have the problem or does the problem own you?
Learning to let go of what we cannot change.
Breathe Meditations: Breathing excercises to assist us gain more inner calm

Mind Traps: – also known as Thinking and Feeling Traps Beware of falling into a preset pattern of thinking. i.e. All XYZ types of people are always (fill in the blanks) so therefore they are not worth the time and the effort.

Self Talk: It tells us quite a bit of what we think and feel about our sense of intent over life and events. Often heard inside our head. Sometimes we self-talk out loud.

Affirmations: A preset word, phrase or set of sentences or words designed to assist us access more of our personal power to get something done.
Regulated Diaphragmatic Breathing: Breathing that assists us to slow down our thinking, heart rate and breathing. Calming us in the process.

Walking as if you had Time: An exercise designed to allow up to slow down to calm our body, mind and feelings.

Deep Muscle Relaxation: Excercise techniques that assist us relax
Progressive Muscle Relaxation Techniques:

Worrying ~ Thinking ~ Decision Making See Appendix article

Guided Imagery: Practising an event in advance in the theatre of our mind. Going over the event in our heads rehearsing each step, every move and word to enhance our performance and increase our confidence for a successful outcome.

Circle of Excellence: Access a state of performance excellence rapidly and dissociate from a stuck state of lower performance.

Releasing: is a method for on the spot change. A letting go skill developed by Patricia Carrington, Ph.D a noted stress researcher.

Panic Attack: Due to feeling overwhelmed due to stress, lack of sleep, overwork etc. we suddenly stop functioning at our best. Lack of clarity of thinking, confused feelings and a sense of mental numbness can take hold.

Guided Visualization: See Guided Imagery

Behavioural Health: This reflects your level showing how resilient you are. Excessive eating and drinking, heavy smoking, inability to sleep may all be symptoms of distress or perhaps a physical health disorder.

Physical Health: Muscle tension, head-aches, and stomach aches may be signals of distress.

Emotional Health: This is where worrying, depression and feeling depleted may be manifestations of distress.